So
here I am. 9 weeks after the event that changed my life forever. From one
perspective I am in a better place than I was back then; others, I am closer
and closer to an abyss than I have ever been. So without further ado, here goes the
news. Now I must say to start, that I do
have a few soapbox moments… so yeah.
Let’s
start with some good news.
I
have started basic therapy, started support groups, and started a form of “rubber
band” therapy for PTSD. Nothing is
perfect, but that’s a good start to my future of knowing. I know what my triggers are, and I know how I
react to them. The head docs, who I lucked
out with and get along with wonderfully, have given me the nice bill of future
health. Basically, after all is said and
done, I should (pending nothing serious) be ok and able to manage with the right
attention and care.
Now
this may be wrong, but I fit into the category of those who have had the “light
switch moment” and got to see what I was and have taken measures to change
that. I am apparently one of the few
people diagnosed who have these sorts of moments. This makes me a bit more at ease with that
part of life. So on the depression/PTSD
track, not perfect, but on the right track, and should be good. Not exactly a
win, but it’s a start.
So
now I say this: If you know about an
issue, whether someone sees it or not, talk about it. Ask if you can fucking do something about
it. Don’t just assume that they are
bored, or pissed, or that it’s “normal”.
Something could be seriously fucking wrong; you have an obligation as a
friend, to at least try. If you call
this person a friend, see what the fuck is up.
Never tell someone there is no hope, to give up, and to move on. Never ever… and if you are one of those who
do – well might need to learn how to get out of that mind set. Get them to open up and tell them you are
there (and fucking mean it), ask what they can do (and fucking do it). No one, I repeat, no one is equipped to
handle this shit. Even those of us who
have seen some real shit and know it, cannot say we are ready for it when it
happens.
I
have been on both sides. I’ve been the
one hurting, and the one helping. I know
full well how much it sucks to be watching a friend or loved one hurt like
nothing else and be powerless to aid them.
But regardless, I can say that I give it my all. I see what I can do, I reach out, I will not
back down until I know things will be ok one way or another. But I know that that’s not everyone. Yet… be a friend. Show you care. It might mean someone’s
life. And if you cant.. Well personally
I tell you to fuck off and eat a dick… but not everyone can deal with that
either. So I will say it again, but to
those who have truly helped me in this, I thank you and can only do so much to
repay you; even if that is a shoulder to carry a burden for you as well.
Regardless
of indifference or willingness to go at it, I have and will always respect
those who push to get the truth. To push
for the answers on both sides and take the measures to ensure that things are
to a point where its ok. Those who go
that extra mile to make sure shit gets sorted out. I lose all respect of those who do not.
Man,
kind of dire for good news… but anyway; now the bad.
I
dropped over 25 pounds over the course of the past 2 months. Which some see that in other lights, were as
I am happy to have lost some, it pretty much undoes all the hard work I put
into toning up and whatnot.
I
am still unemployed full time. The bills
are adding up, and thinking I have someone to hold me up ended up being a trust
fall that caused me to hit rock bottom in that area too. I honestly haven’t been this miserable in
general in a long time. Even now, while I
am ok with where I am going, I have lost it all. Yet… as it goes, only after we have lost everything
are we able to do anything.
Companies
are full of dipshits. And those dipshits
make the rules where whoever you talk to claims to give you an option to help
you out, but still fuck you over. Sorry
companies, lenders, state government and whoever else says I owe them – I would
love to pay you if I could. I take great
pride in earning my way. However, for
now – get in line like everyone else wanting to take it out of my ass(there isn’t
jack shit there anymore).
She…
is gone. Probably for good. I watched her seemingly begin the path that I
just finished. Seemingly unable or
unwilling to deal with it, unable to really sit down and talk about it with
people. I guess maybe it’s because I finally
realized what I was doing by bottling things up inside that I went to anyone
and everyone. I asked for help,
guidance, aid, assistance in any form I could get. You claim to never care what others thing –
and in truth I really don’t either. But I do know this, most of the people we
know give a shit. They have an opinion
and will help you through no matter what – you just have to accept it and
extend a hand. That’s who we are.
If
you ever read this, know that I honestly still love you with all my heart.
Nothing will change that. One day I hope
we can be ok and you will come back. If
it was true love, then we shall see. If
it was just another game, then I was played like a fool. But I will do my best to move on. The one thing I truly needed for this to be at
an end, is the one thing you can’t give me.
A real talk, a real chance, you to be the shoulder I lean on, and you
me. Otherwise, it’ll just be dealing
with it.
Every
day, I look into the abyss. I have
released the hand of hatred for myself, but the cost of that… the cost of the past few months is more
than anyone should ever have to pay.
I will carry this with me for the rest of my life. I carry on because it’s what I know how to
do. I know how to soldier on, and that is what I do. Survival mode sucks, more than anything; yet
there is always hope that things will be better.
I
am looking out and trying my best to walk forward. Preparations for moving ahead don’t seem like
much, but its something. I can look back
at the gloom all day, and know it is there.
I also refuse to go back to that – even if I have truly nothing left to
give.
So
again, to those who have helped me through this mess, I thank you with all I
have. To those who turned their back on
me, well… I have found that you really aren’t who I thought you were. I regrettably am all or nothing in most
regards. I’ll give you everything I can
or nothing at all – and those that fit into that category, well it was fun
while it lasted, and good luck in life.
To
the rest of you, I’m a fighter – and I’m still going; again thank you for all
that you have at least attempted. And in theory, I can only hope that I can
make something more of this. Some place
to clear my head about normal every day shit.
Even some good news would be good.
Here is to hoping.
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